- I agree with #1. I still wonder how things may have been different if my emotions were under control, and I acted more rationally.
- For point #2, a little bit of contextual information. When we talked about touchy subjects, I was always candid about any past stories that may be relevant to the discussion. I think she was sincere and open too, except in this instance.
- I agree with your point. I have friends who are strippers, cam girls, and others who are in sugar relationships. However, in an intimate relationship, I would be more discriminatory. For example, I have friends who are on the opposite end of the political spectrum. But I wouldn’t be in a relationship with someone so different because I think values and principles are the roots of everything. It would end up being a lot of fighting or a build-up of resentment.
- Absolutely. Point #4 is related to my agreements with #1. I filled in the blanks with my own biases rather than trying to reach an understanding. That said, I can’t estimate if transparency would offset the underlying value issue.
My overall point was to define a strategic and contingency plan for relationships; to do proactive thinking to realize comfort boundaries.
However, I also agree that this conversation is an important societal issue. I’ve met people who’ve been in sugar relationships to pay for school or start their own business. But others who’ve used it to go on nice boats and planes for pictures on Instagram. And then the question I ask myself is, how do these relationships perpetuate power imbalances? Even isolated from gender, the idea of the rich being able to buy anything is unfortunate. I feel like intimacy is our final frontier and selling that just doesn’t sit well with me.
You’re very insightful, and your ideas pushed me into deeper reflection. Thank you for reading and starting the conversation!
